NOT SAMENESS MAKES A COUPLE WHOLE. WHAT MAKES IT WHOLE IS THAT THEY HAVE EACH OTHER — EVEN IN DIFFERENCE, EVEN IN ARGUMENT, EVEN IN SILENCE.

BEING WITH ANOTHER — DOES NOT MEAN BEING THE SAME AS THEM.

REAL CLOSENESS BEGINS WHERE EXPECTATION ENDS AND PARTICIPATION BEGINS.

THE STRENGTH OF RELATIONSHIPS IS NOT IN SAMENESS, BUT IN WHETHER EACH ONE REMAINS THEMSELVES BESIDE THE OTHER.

HARMONY IS IMPOSSIBLE WITHOUT ACCEPTING DIFFERENCES. DO NOT STRIVE FOR COMPLETE AGREEMENT — IT'S AN ILLUSION AND A PATH TO DISAPPOINTMENT.

Do you love the person — or are you trying to fix them to fit your idea of a "proper" man/woman?

Where do you expect to be understood without words, while you yourself are not present?

Do you see your partner as a separate person — or as a role they must play?

Which of the things that irritate you in the other is actually an unresolved part of yourself?

Are you creating closeness — or a quiet war over who is right?

Are you ready to be understood as you are — or only in a version that's convenient for the other?

Don't expect the other person to become a version of you for your convenience.

Don't confuse difference with fault.

Don't expect to be understood without words — show up and participate.

Ask instead of making assumptions about the other.

Respect difference as a fact, not as a mistake that needs fixing.

Watch pair figure skating live at least once in your life.